AK used in Psychotherapy
Psychological Systems
14/10/08 07:57
As far as psychological therapies go, I highly recommend that you learn Milton Ericson's hypnotic techniques, NeuroLinguistic Programming and Jungian Psychology.
Skinner is a first chakra psychologist - survival, changing behavior...
Freud is a second chakra psychologist - everything is an aspect of sex.
Adler is a third chakra psychologist - dominance, pecking order...
Jung is a fourth chakra psychologist - individuation = great work.
NLP will equip you with skills to recognize, identify and modify human behavior. It is amoral = can be used for good or bad. It represents the most advanced techniques of influencing to date. You can make change work fast, easy, lasting... and don't have to get bogged down in the bummer stories people like to tell psychologists.
I have a PhD in psychology, but decided not to practice as a psychologist. In USA, the psychiatrists followed by the psychologists are the occupational groups that most often commit suicide. After hearing the bad stories from their patients all day long... they don't want to live in that kind of world anymore. NLP allows you to do "contentless therapy" - you can really help without having to hear the bad stories.
My basic therapeutic modality is Applied Kinesiology. I wrote a teaching and reference textbook on the field. With AK, I can determine what happened when - the cause of a patient's psychological (or other type of) problem in minutes. Then I can use AK to determine which kind of therapy will be appropriate for resolving the problem. You'd be surprised how many psychological problems can be resolved with selected nutrients!
--Dr. Robert Frost
Skinner is a first chakra psychologist - survival, changing behavior...
Freud is a second chakra psychologist - everything is an aspect of sex.
Adler is a third chakra psychologist - dominance, pecking order...
Jung is a fourth chakra psychologist - individuation = great work.
NLP will equip you with skills to recognize, identify and modify human behavior. It is amoral = can be used for good or bad. It represents the most advanced techniques of influencing to date. You can make change work fast, easy, lasting... and don't have to get bogged down in the bummer stories people like to tell psychologists.
I have a PhD in psychology, but decided not to practice as a psychologist. In USA, the psychiatrists followed by the psychologists are the occupational groups that most often commit suicide. After hearing the bad stories from their patients all day long... they don't want to live in that kind of world anymore. NLP allows you to do "contentless therapy" - you can really help without having to hear the bad stories.
My basic therapeutic modality is Applied Kinesiology. I wrote a teaching and reference textbook on the field. With AK, I can determine what happened when - the cause of a patient's psychological (or other type of) problem in minutes. Then I can use AK to determine which kind of therapy will be appropriate for resolving the problem. You'd be surprised how many psychological problems can be resolved with selected nutrients!
--Dr. Robert Frost
Perverse Sense Of Humor
12/10/08 13:34
A colleague of mine had a "new-age" type patient in psychological therapy. She was always speaking of her great desire for "inner growth". Her subconscious heard her words and gave it to her: cancer tumors. That's real inner growth - not what she meant but truly what she said. She died from them.
A teacher of mine related the story of a man who successfully visualized lots of money - giving it out and receiving it. He got a job as a bank teller. A temple woman visualized having a husband. Soon lots of husbands were giving her attention - the husbands of other women!
It appears to me that the subconscious has a seemingly perverse humor - giving us just what we said - even if not exactly what we meant. That being so, it behooves us to choose our words very precisely indeed - with no chance of double meanings with undesired intent.
--Dr. Robert Frost
A teacher of mine related the story of a man who successfully visualized lots of money - giving it out and receiving it. He got a job as a bank teller. A temple woman visualized having a husband. Soon lots of husbands were giving her attention - the husbands of other women!
It appears to me that the subconscious has a seemingly perverse humor - giving us just what we said - even if not exactly what we meant. That being so, it behooves us to choose our words very precisely indeed - with no chance of double meanings with undesired intent.
--Dr. Robert Frost
Reprogramming a "crummy childhood"
12/10/08 08:18
If "imperative" implies that you are willing to take a few strange and uncomfortable steps, I can suggest a method that will certainly work:
Every day you do perhaps a thousand things. Several go not as planned. I suspect that you ridicule and put yourself down about the several things wrong. "How could I be so stupid?" or as my daughter prefers, "I can't believe I did that!"
And I suspect that the ~990 other things that went right receive no inner commentary at all.
And this miserable programming is socially reinforced. When we dare to say, "Gee, I did that really well didn't I?", others cringe away and give us bad vibes. When we 'jammer' and moan, "Oh, why do I always get it wrong?", others come to us, put their hand on our shoulder, and give us uplifting comments. Exactly the reverse of what would be healthy.
Sooooo, how does one get out of this mess? The answer I will give will certainly sound childish. It is actually childlike. Think about it. Who has the most energy? Kids! And how do they talk about their accomplishments? "Mommy, look what I did!" full of pride and joy. And that gives them near endless vitality.
Recipe for reprogramming a crummy childhood:
When you get up early like you wanted to the night before, say to yourself: "There. I got up early like I wanted to. Good." Then when you brush your teeth, say, "And now I brushed my teeth, just like I decided to." When your nutritious breakfast is on the table, look at it and say aloud (if alone), "Look at that wonderful breakfast I made for myself. Yum!"
These are the kind of things little kids say to themselves. The secret to making this plan work is to put intense emotion into those childlike words. Your subconscious mind doesn't know what is a big thing and what is a small accomplishment. It only knows how much emotion you put into it. So if you say, "Gee, I tied my own shoes!" overflowing with enthusiasm, your subconscious mind thinks, "Wow, another positive accomplishment today. I'm a regelrecht goal achiever!"
When the amount of positive emotion you exude toward yourself gets to over 50% of the emotion your emote during the day, your whole world will change. It has worked for many of my students over the years, ones will lousy self-depricating childhoods, if they will dare to do this simple practice regularly.
Sure you will feel stupid at first, but do it anyway. Do it like acting. Over-exagurate the positive emotions you so feed yourself. They are the medicine you need.
Let me know if I can be of any support in the process.
Dr. Robert Frost--
Every day you do perhaps a thousand things. Several go not as planned. I suspect that you ridicule and put yourself down about the several things wrong. "How could I be so stupid?" or as my daughter prefers, "I can't believe I did that!"
And I suspect that the ~990 other things that went right receive no inner commentary at all.
And this miserable programming is socially reinforced. When we dare to say, "Gee, I did that really well didn't I?", others cringe away and give us bad vibes. When we 'jammer' and moan, "Oh, why do I always get it wrong?", others come to us, put their hand on our shoulder, and give us uplifting comments. Exactly the reverse of what would be healthy.
Sooooo, how does one get out of this mess? The answer I will give will certainly sound childish. It is actually childlike. Think about it. Who has the most energy? Kids! And how do they talk about their accomplishments? "Mommy, look what I did!" full of pride and joy. And that gives them near endless vitality.
Recipe for reprogramming a crummy childhood:
When you get up early like you wanted to the night before, say to yourself: "There. I got up early like I wanted to. Good." Then when you brush your teeth, say, "And now I brushed my teeth, just like I decided to." When your nutritious breakfast is on the table, look at it and say aloud (if alone), "Look at that wonderful breakfast I made for myself. Yum!"
These are the kind of things little kids say to themselves. The secret to making this plan work is to put intense emotion into those childlike words. Your subconscious mind doesn't know what is a big thing and what is a small accomplishment. It only knows how much emotion you put into it. So if you say, "Gee, I tied my own shoes!" overflowing with enthusiasm, your subconscious mind thinks, "Wow, another positive accomplishment today. I'm a regelrecht goal achiever!"
When the amount of positive emotion you exude toward yourself gets to over 50% of the emotion your emote during the day, your whole world will change. It has worked for many of my students over the years, ones will lousy self-depricating childhoods, if they will dare to do this simple practice regularly.
Sure you will feel stupid at first, but do it anyway. Do it like acting. Over-exagurate the positive emotions you so feed yourself. They are the medicine you need.
Let me know if I can be of any support in the process.
Dr. Robert Frost--
Comforting the child self
12/10/08 07:43
I recently had a female patient, age 26, who in her own words, "In my childhood, I was repeatedly beaten by both parents throughout my life, had an abortion two weeks ago, was raped when I was six years old, don't trust men and am a cutter." I asked her what a cutter is. She replied by showing me her forearms which were covered with perhaps a hundred thin scars.
When the emotional mode came up, I tested through my list and came to "Comforting the Child Self".
I tested which of her major stressors and came to the childhood rape. This is a highly charged emotional issue and requires sensitive handling to reduce the stress. Most popular psychology techniques involve mentally reliving old stressors. In my opinion, these outdated methods just rip open an old wound, create a new wound, and don't necessarily heal it at all. Sure, when there is an infection under a scar, it may be medically necessary to open it up, treat the infection, and close it again. Some psychological problems may need such "sanitizing". However, it has been my experience that one can clear or at least reduce the residual stress of prior traumas without having to emotionally re-experience them. One time was bad enough.
An extreme but telling example: I had a female patient in Basel, Switzerland who had been raped. Her Freudian analyst sat behind his large desk and asked her to describe the event to him in all possible detail, which she did. Then he replied, "Well, our hour is up for today. We'll discuss this next week." She went out in a very fragile and vulnerable state. Her body language must have revealed her vulnerability as she was raped again (by someone else) on the way home. In my opinion, her "therapist" was little more than a voyeur and a sadist.
The technique of "Comforting the Child Self" is particularly useful and effective for cases in which your client had experienced great trauma and still suffers from its after-effects.
My client was on her back on my table so I had her imagine a black and white television screen with a poor quality scratchy picture above her on the ceiling. I told her that she was to remain here with me in 2008 while she watched her 6-year-old self on the ceiling. She was not to identify with being the child, but rather with being her adult self observing. I told her that if I caught her getting into the feelings that I would bang her on the shoulder and say, "Hey, pretty bad movie, huh? Want some pop-corn?" She laughed. I told her that she was to watch the old event in fast-forward motion so she didn't have time to get into it emotionally.
She imagined the old event as I instructed. When a few tear drops ran down her cheek, I wiped them away and reminded her that although it was a sad movie, she was not to "get into it". After she watched it in this dissociated manner, I asked her if she had learned something as a result of that experience. She didn't know what I meant so I asked if she learned not to allow people to do things like that to her anymore. She answered emphatically, "Yes!" I said, "So you see, although it was terrible then, you learned things of great value that still protect you today, didn't you?" She agreed.
Then I instructed her to, in her imagination, go to her six-year-old child self and introduce herself with something like, "Hi. I'm you in the future. I'm the living proof that you survived that awful experience. I'm here now to help you." She did so. I asked if the child believed her. She said, "Yes". I told her to comfort her child self, to stroke her hair, hug her, talk to her and calm her down. When this was accomplished, I instructed her to explain to her child self, "You didn't suffer for nothing. As a result of having gone through that awful event, I (you in the future) have learned important lessons that continue to save me from bad experiences. I know it was horrible for you, but I want you to know that it was not for nothing. And it is over now so you can let go of it. I'm here for you now and I'll always be here for you. In fact, I'm the only one who will always be here for you."
When she told me that her child self believed her and was calmed down, I instructed her to extend her arms, embrace her child self, and draw her into her own chest – to bring her into her heart where she would always be taken care of.
This produced great emotional relief and even joy. My client went away to her holiday with new enthusiasm and capacity to enjoy herself.
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Most of us recall events as if they are happening to us now. The psychological term for this is "associated". When you associate with experiences, you feel them strongly. The first step in treating an emotional trauma in the above way is to assist the client to disassociate, to "get some distance", to observe it dispassionately. To do this you imagine that you are looking at yourself from outside of the picture. Imagining that you are watching it on a movie screen is a good way. Making it a black and white movie in fast motion makes it even harder to identify with the characters in the movie and thereby helps to keep you disassociated. Once you have gained in this way some "emotional distance", you can deal with the old event without suffering in the process.
Freud taught that childhood traumas partially block the flow of our "libido", causing us to have only a fraction of our vitality available in the present.
In a way, some part of my client was still six-years-old, suffering and crying. Some part of her childhood vitality and enthusiasm had been stunted and shut away as a result of her reaction to that experience. Calming the child self, explaining to her that the event is over and that it generated valuable learnings and reintegrating the child self frees the energy that was blocked by that trauma for so long.
--Dr. Robert Frost